Today, I am thankful for the Guardian Martial Arts and Soke-Shihan Scot Conway. I have been training under his leadership since August of 2005, just 5 months after Andrea Loya and I were married. She started training right alongside me.
The Guardian Arts consist of the 3 core arts, Guardian Jujutsu, Guardian Karate, and Guardian Kobujutsu (weapons, along with Guardian Kempo, the parent art of the other 3. Andrea and I hold 3rd degree black belts in the 3 core arts, and we qualified for our 1st degree black belt for Guardian Kempo this January. This will be officially recognized on May 6 of this year.
My technique got a bit sloppy after I was hit by a slow moving car in April of 2015, followed by very sedentary employment for almost 2 years. Not once did Scot… And yes, I call him Scot. In a martial arts context, I will address him using his martial arts title, but outside of class, it’s just Scot… Not once during that time was he anything but encouraging in my progress. Never once during that period, nor the several years before, did he break out the bamboo sword and teach me the old school way because I needed to improve. He told me what I needed to work on, and he told me when he knew I was ready to hear it. He did this, even though he came up the old school way, where pain was a more commonly utilized motivation.
Just so there is no confusion, Guardian Jujutsu is not the same as Brazilian jiu jitsu, and it isn’t represented as such. It’s primarily counter grappling, and serves as a foundation for the more advanced grappling and ground fighting skills of Guardian Kempo.
That is one of the many things I appreciate about Scot. He is confident in what he knows and what he teaches, and he has no problem admitting or clarifying differences when asked. Even when he fought Royler Gracie in the early 1990s, he spoke very positively about the Gracie Family and their jiu jitsu in the article he wrote for Black Belt Magazine, readily admitting he did not win the Gracie Challenge.
The training I have received from him has laid an extremely valuable foundation for more advanced study in specialized disciplines. A lot of my ability to learn techniques and concepts in other arts is because I have some reference point for them. This doesn’t mean I learn the technique right away, but it means I can make a mental picture more easily than I could without some prior training. Admitedly, judo is the most different from the Guardian way of things, but I still think my prior experience helps every so often.
Soke Scot has not been possessive in any way, as I have branched out to get more specialized training in BJJ and judo. He is happy I am making progress as a martial artist, even though I only train with him once a week, and I am no longer regularly teaching at his dojo. This is refreshing. I have spoken with several other martial artists who have trained with profoundly possessive and territorial instructors. “You can either train here or there. Make your choice.” Were the words of one instructor of a colleague who will remain nameless.
What I am most grateful for is the life principles I have learned in the Guardian Arts and from Soke Scot. In particular, I am appreciative of the relationship principles Andrea and I have both learned. From June 2008 to December 2009, over a year and a half… During that time, Andrea and I were separated. (I’ve written about this publicly in other forums.) It is, in large part, because of the principles we learned from Scot that we were able to fix the most crucial aspects of our marriage. I am solidly convinced that, were it not for Scot, she and I would not be married today. For that, I am forever thankful.
Scot, you have also grown to be a friend. You did not typify the scarry Asian martial arts master stereotype I had cast you into when we first met. (Your In Living Color reference comes to mind.) You have supported me in many ways, always wanting the best for me. You have strived to be your best for me. You have always helped me, even through very difficult times, so I could experience transcendent joy. This post is dedicated to you and the genius martial arts system you have created. Thank you.