I am thankful for Pulp Fiction. I don’t even know how many times I have seen this movie. For me, the film is about redemption, grace, and second chances, as well as consequences for our actions. Quite honestly, I see the Gospel Message played out in this movie. I admit I am an unconventional Christian… Maybe I’ll write a Bible study using Pulp Fiction for illustration…
Today, I am thankful for the Guardian Martial Arts and Soke-Shihan Scot Conway. I have been training under his leadership since August of 2005, just 5 months after Andrea Loya and I were married. She started training right alongside me.
The Guardian Arts consist of the 3 core arts, Guardian Jujutsu, Guardian Karate, and Guardian Kobujutsu (weapons, along with Guardian Kempo, the parent art of the other 3. Andrea and I hold 3rd degree black belts in the 3 core arts, and we qualified for our 1st degree black belt for Guardian Kempo this January. This will be officially recognized on May 6 of this year.
My technique got a bit sloppy after I was hit by a slow moving car in April of 2015, followed by very sedentary employment for almost 2 years. Not once did Scot… And yes, I call him Scot. In a martial arts context, I will address him using his martial arts title, but outside of class, it’s just Scot… Not once during that time was he anything but encouraging in my progress. Never once during that period, nor the several years before, did he break out the bamboo sword and teach me the old school way because I needed to improve. He told me what I needed to work on, and he told me when he knew I was ready to hear it. He did this, even though he came up the old school way, where pain was a more commonly utilized motivation.
Just so there is no confusion, Guardian Jujutsu is not the same as Brazilian jiu jitsu, and it isn’t represented as such. It’s primarily counter grappling, and serves as a foundation for the more advanced grappling and ground fighting skills of Guardian Kempo.
That is one of the many things I appreciate about Scot. He is confident in what he knows and what he teaches, and he has no problem admitting or clarifying differences when asked. Even when he fought Royler Gracie in the early 1990s, he spoke very positively about the Gracie Family and their jiu jitsu in the article he wrote for Black Belt Magazine, readily admitting he did not win the Gracie Challenge.
The training I have received from him has laid an extremely valuable foundation for more advanced study in specialized disciplines. A lot of my ability to learn techniques and concepts in other arts is because I have some reference point for them. This doesn’t mean I learn the technique right away, but it means I can make a mental picture more easily than I could without some prior training. Admitedly, judo is the most different from the Guardian way of things, but I still think my prior experience helps every so often.
Soke Scot has not been possessive in any way, as I have branched out to get more specialized training in BJJ and judo. He is happy I am making progress as a martial artist, even though I only train with him once a week, and I am no longer regularly teaching at his dojo. This is refreshing. I have spoken with several other martial artists who have trained with profoundly possessive and territorial instructors. “You can either train here or there. Make your choice.” Were the words of one instructor of a colleague who will remain nameless.
What I am most grateful for is the life principles I have learned in the Guardian Arts and from Soke Scot. In particular, I am appreciative of the relationship principles Andrea and I have both learned. From June 2008 to December 2009, over a year and a half… During that time, Andrea and I were separated. (I’ve written about this publicly in other forums.) It is, in large part, because of the principles we learned from Scot that we were able to fix the most crucial aspects of our marriage. I am solidly convinced that, were it not for Scot, she and I would not be married today. For that, I am forever thankful.
Scot, you have also grown to be a friend. You did not typify the scarry Asian martial arts master stereotype I had cast you into when we first met. (Your In Living Color reference comes to mind.) You have supported me in many ways, always wanting the best for me. You have strived to be your best for me. You have always helped me, even through very difficult times, so I could experience transcendent joy. This post is dedicated to you and the genius martial arts system you have created. Thank you.
Today I am thankful for our new car. Thanks to the generosity of several people, including one very awesome anonymous donor, we were able to purchase a 2002 GMC Yukon. The miles per gallon on this vehicle art great, but having no car payment is pretty awesome! Lots of room for cargo, people, and dogs! A lot of really unique timing was involved in us having this car. There are, most certainly, logical explanations for why all these pieces came together The way they did. Nonetheless, I choose to give credit to God. My prayer is that Andrea and I will be worthy of this very significant blessing in our life. Hopefully, there will be some opportunities to pay it forward in the very near future.
Slowly but surely, I am bringing the site here together. It’s taking more work than I expected. I know a bit about technology, but I’m still a white belt on web development. Hope to have the site prettier soon. In the meantime, this post will serve as a test for social media things. Now, it’s time to leave for Guardian Quest to train a bit and prepare everything for the Blind Community Martial Arts black belt test tomorrow. Maybe it’s the rain drops making music on my roof, but I feel like we’re on the verge of something great… The calm before the storm.
Toward the end of 2016, we began to cry more and more for the year to end. Whether it was celebrity deaths, or the hotly contested election, many of us spent this last week hoping things wouldn’t get any worse before 2017 arrived. Now that the new year is here, it is my hope we can move forward with renewed positivity and enthusiasm. The numbers on our calendar don’t dictate what type of life we live. Our choices do. Still, maybe it will be easier to keep going without the overwhelming weight of negativity we have allowed to pile up in the course of the last twelve months.
Today, I begin the next step. It’s December 31, 2016. It’s been a tough year for some. It’s been a transformative year for me. I invite you to join me on the adventure of the next 12 months and beyond. I’m not perfect, by any means. I’ll do my best to share my story, so you can gain some strength and encouragement from what I get right. When I get something wrong, I hope you can learn something then too. For now, Happy New Year!